If I could change myself

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Finish this thought: if I could change one thing about myself (if you can't think of anything, you might want to consider telling how you got to be perfect!) prompt

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If I could change one thing about myself...I'd knock the offer down and change nothing.

I love the way I am. How I look, how I walk, I talk, I laugh. I don't see the point of changing if everything you have is more than enough for you. Most people don't see it, honestly sometimes I don't too, but think of it. You've been given much better things yet you never really notice it. All that goes noticed are your flaws. By you. Sometimes, the bullies that exist are actually ourselves. The question is, why should we and why have we seen ourselves in such a way? 

It's normal. Humans are humans. Feelings exists. Things, surroundings and experiences can influence and change us emotionally. Maybe you see someone who you think is 'better than you' and it makes you feel upset or jealous. You tend to think "Oh, what I would give to have or be so and so as he/she." Stop it. Why waste your energy and time pondering over such questions as they won't bring you any positivities? All it will bring though, is the product of overthinking. Headaches. 

All of us have gone through the spiralling mind of insecurities and overthinking. Let's use myself as an example. When I was younger in my early teens and up till now (I'm 17), I've always restricted myself from smiling with my teeth showing. I have rabbit teeth and one of my front teeth is pushed back and not inline with the rest. I used to feel embarrassed when told to smile widely. I'd shake my head in disapproval and continued to smile as usual. Lips tight. Now, I'd gotten used to taking some photos smiling broadly. Although not often, I thought that at the very least, this has been an improvement from how I felt about it before. It felt great. 

However, I still thought of it as a flaw. (1) Good thing is, that I didn't fill my mind with it. It is what it is. (2) I reminded myself that I loved the way I smiled as I usually did anyway, so why did it matter? 

And that's what's important. Why bother about things that shouldn't be bothered when you could focus on things that are far better? I'm not saying it's easy. I, myself know it isn't but it's worth a shot. If it works then it does, you'll feel good. If it doesn't, try harder. I know that negative things have a certain pull to them by which you can get schluuuupped right into. If positivity was an matter, it would be in the form of Baymax from Big Hero 6. Negativity on the other hand would be um...a dementor from Harry Potter. 

Hold up, I lost my train of thought haha. Shouldn't have stopped for a twitter/instagram break!

Alright, I'm just going to start a new one. 

Another thing that is just as important as to not point out flaws in yourself is to not, I repeat not, point out physical flaws of others to that person or to someone else. I know that some people say it as a form of a joke but really honestly tell me how would you like it if someone pointed out yours? I'd just love to sometimes walk up to someone who has done so (either to me or someone else) and just insult them to the ground. DO NOT DO THIS. It's just something I angrily think of. Never would I ever do it though. Most I'd do is to ignore or just yell at them for a bit. And that is reason number one to not point out flaws in others. If you don't expect to be yelled at then haha ha ha hahaha ha ha hahaha. Just don't fire back when you know you've done wrong.  

Reason number two is...WHY DO YOU EVEN NEED REASONS TO KNOW THAT IT'S WRONG...cough. Reason number two is you're lowering the person's self esteem and frankly just ruining their day. Tell me, would you want your day to be ruined? I think not. So, think before you speak. You don't know how much it'd hurt someone. You don't know how their day, their week, their life has gone. Even if it had gone amazingly well, don't use that as a reason to ruin it too. 

Something I'd really want to point out is that you should always be considerate, unless in that situation, it's going against/hurting you by which you should put your feelings over it (ex: someone treating you badly). If you see someone upset or angry and you know the reason behind it, do not do things or say things that would trigger or affect them any more  than the original thing has. Just please don't. 

I'm getting emotional aha so yeah, I'll just stop and this is as long as it goes for today. Pretty long than my usual posts I think. 

Anyway, have a good day everyone xx