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"Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself that's when you're most beautiful."
-Zoë Kravitz
You are who you are and you can't change that.
For these past few days, I've been falling into a sad abyss of insecurities. Why? Wish I knew. I think lots of girls and guys alike, no matter how confident they are, do go through this insecure phase. Unfortunately, it's not a fun state to be in.
Suddenly, you feel like the way you look isn't as nice as you used to be. It is as if there's just something about you that is different but you can't put a finger on what that thing is. I look in the mirror and I see the same me that I see every time I come across my reflection. I don't look different but I feel different.
I think one of the major things that fuel my insecurities is social media. Let's take Instagram as an example. I haven't posted a 'nice' photo in 2 weeks. That, makes me compelled to post photos to make up for the 2 weeks of absence. Thus, every time we go out, I am almost always on a constant mind set that I have to use this opportunity to take photos for me to post up on Instagram which in turn, lessens the level of enjoyment I have at those outings. When I do end up taking some photos though, they more than likely end up not very 'nice' in my eyes. I feel like I won't get enough likes or people are going to unfollow me which is just horrid. I shouldn't be on Instagram worrying about the amount of likes and follows. I want to do things genuinely and enjoy what I do on social media and not for the numbers. Those are things people choose to do, and they do not make a person or their pictures any less beautiful that what it is. We should all be able to post whatever we want without such irrelevant thoughts stuck at the back of our minds.
Suddenly, you feel like the way you look isn't as nice as you used to be. It is as if there's just something about you that is different but you can't put a finger on what that thing is. I look in the mirror and I see the same me that I see every time I come across my reflection. I don't look different but I feel different.
I think one of the major things that fuel my insecurities is social media. Let's take Instagram as an example. I haven't posted a 'nice' photo in 2 weeks. That, makes me compelled to post photos to make up for the 2 weeks of absence. Thus, every time we go out, I am almost always on a constant mind set that I have to use this opportunity to take photos for me to post up on Instagram which in turn, lessens the level of enjoyment I have at those outings. When I do end up taking some photos though, they more than likely end up not very 'nice' in my eyes. I feel like I won't get enough likes or people are going to unfollow me which is just horrid. I shouldn't be on Instagram worrying about the amount of likes and follows. I want to do things genuinely and enjoy what I do on social media and not for the numbers. Those are things people choose to do, and they do not make a person or their pictures any less beautiful that what it is. We should all be able to post whatever we want without such irrelevant thoughts stuck at the back of our minds.
All of a sudden, I just feel not good enough.
Which in a whole, I shouldn't. No one should.
Everyone is always 'good enough', no matter what good enough means in their head. You don't have to be as rich, as smart, as beautiful as the next person. Comparing yourself to someone else is something hard to avoid. You see a new person and you think, "Wow, what'd I do to be in his/her shoes." and truth is, you shouldn't. You don't know what he/she has gone through to get to how they are right now, as happy and successful as they seem. Even then, who knows if they are actually happy with however they are themselves. They might even be looking at you and thinking the same as you have.
Which in a whole, I shouldn't. No one should.
Everyone is always 'good enough', no matter what good enough means in their head. You don't have to be as rich, as smart, as beautiful as the next person. Comparing yourself to someone else is something hard to avoid. You see a new person and you think, "Wow, what'd I do to be in his/her shoes." and truth is, you shouldn't. You don't know what he/she has gone through to get to how they are right now, as happy and successful as they seem. Even then, who knows if they are actually happy with however they are themselves. They might even be looking at you and thinking the same as you have.
"Appreciate the beauty of others, but don't undermine your own."
I think learning to love myself is one of the hardest yet easiest thing to do. I've read endless posts of loving how you look, how you act, what you have and how that is the key of being truly happy with yourself. Thing is, one day, I can look at myself and think I am Beyonce, and tomorrow I feel like Jabba the Hut. And I guess that's just part of life y'know. You can never escape insecurities, but you can shake them off and get over them. There is no use in dwelling over things that aren't important because there are better things in yourself and your life that make everyday worth living. You are a wonder in your own way so improve yourself without being too hard and surround yourself with positive people because it's amazing how a good group of friends can change you. Chin up because the days are going to get better.
xx
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